When we talk about screen time and screen dependency, we often think of young people first. But children and teens are not the only ones affected. Parents’ digital behaviours also play a key role — not only by setting an example but also by influencing the quality of their relationship with their children. Without pointing fingers or assigning blame, here’s a brief look at how screen use can affect family dynamics.

The Concept of “Technoference”

The term technoference (a blend of “technology” and “interference”) refers to situations where a screen — like a phone or tablet — disrupts an interaction between a parent and child. It may seem harmless, but research shows that frequent interruptions can have real consequences on a child’s development.

For instance, answering a text at the dinner table or checking your phone at the park can reduce a parent’s emotional availability, lower the amount of verbal and visual interaction, and negatively impact learning, safety, and the parent–child bond.

Real Impacts on Children

Excessive screen use by parents can affect:

• The quality of interactions: Less eye contact, verbal engagement, and shared attention
• Language development: Studies show a smaller vocabulary in children whose parents frequently use their phones around them
• Physical safety: A distracted parent may be less attentive, especially in public spaces like parks
• Social-emotional development: The child may feel less emotionally supported, which can lead to insecurity or a weaker attachment bond

The Mirror Effect

Have you heard of the mirror effect? It refers to how children imitate the behaviours they observe in their parents. When a parent uses their phone frequently — even unintentionally — they send the message that this behaviour is normal, or even a priority. This model not only influences how much screen time the child will later allow themselves but also how they interact socially.

A recent study by the Institut de la statistique du Québec shows that parents who frequently use screens have more difficulty managing their children’s screen use. Yet public attention, policy, and media messaging still focus overwhelmingly on youth, rather than on families as a whole.

In this context, talking about parents’ screen time is essential — not to shame them, but to recognize their central role in shaping their family’s digital habits.

Changing Habits Without Going Fully Offline

This isn’t about guilt. Screens are now deeply embedded in our lives, and if parents struggle with managing screen time, it’s often for understandable reasons: staying in touch with loved ones, organizing family life, working, unwinding, or coping with isolation.

But acknowledging the influence of screens can help us make more conscious choices.
Simple steps — like putting your phone away during family time, creating screen-free zones at home (e.g., mealtimes, bedrooms, bedtime), or talking openly with children about these habits — can make a real difference.

If you need support to shift these habits, our team is here to help. Don’t hesitate to reach out anytime at 1-800-461-0140 or by using the chat window at the bottom right of your screen.

Ce contenu a été traduit grâce au soutien du Secrétariat aux relations avec les Québécois d’expression anglaise.