The Information and Referral Center of Greater Montréal wishes to announce the retirement of its Executive Director, Pierrette Gagné
Are you affected by the gambling addiction of a loved one who could be your partner or even your teenager? Are you in psychological distress? Are you living with financial insecurity? Are you worried for other members of your family, especially the children? Have you tried to express your feelings to this person? No matter what stage you find yourself in, rest assured that there is help not only for the gambler, but for you as well. The first step is to recognize that the situation is affecting you. The second step is to take the means to protect yourself from the negative impacts of the gambler’s behaviours.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, we strongly suggest that you talk to someone trustworthy. For example, you can talk over your concerns with a family member, a close friend or your family doctor. The important thing is to break the wall of silence. Are you so ashamed that your partner is an excessive gambler that you try to hide the problem from your friends and family? This is normal and very common among partners of a gambler. Whether it is someone close to you or a specialized professional in excessive gambling, it is
If there is a risk of violent or abusive behaviours, the safety and well-being of everyone concerned must de ensured. What can you do?
Excessive gambling can often cause substantial debt that can lead to bankruptcy. There could be negative effects on the gambler’s finances, as well as, the whole family’s finances.
Here are a few suggestions in order for you to protect your personal finances:
A parent that gambles may be unable to give his/her children the attention and care they need and deserve. The situation is obviously extremely hard for the children who can feel either physically or emotionally abandoned by their parent. Just like adults, children can feel angry, depressed and guilt for the problems at home. They can also begin to develop behavioural problems and act out. In fact, because of this stressful situation, children can also isolate themselves or inappropriately express their feelings. The children should be made aware of what the problem is using terminology adapted to their age.
Children might be confused about their feelings towards the parent who gambles. Here are a few suggestions to help them during this difficult time:
It is also important to know that children who grow up in a household with gamblers, are themselves at risk of developing the same problem. However, knowing that they can count on the love and support of caring and significant adults, improves their chances of growing up healthy and without such problems.
1-800-361-5085 24 h / 7 days
For the parent of a child whose other parent has a gambling problem
1-800-263-2266 24 h / 7 days
For youth whose parent(s) has/have a gambling problem
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For the loved ones of someone who has an excessive gambling problem
Help for families : 514-288-2611
Programme for loved ones– the CRD’s provide free, therapeutic, professional services, specifically for the loved ones of an excessive gambler, whether or not he/she is in treatment
For anyone who needs help making a budget